Tension in Relationships

Introduction
Relationships often have tense moments. Use this youth object lesson / creative teaching idea to discuss the topic of relationships.

Description
Rubber bands will be used as an object lesson for youth on relationships, stress in relationships, closeness in relationships and the hurt we can experience in broken relationships.

Materials
A thin rubber band for each participant. Additional rubber bands and a few larger, thicker ones.

Preparation
None

What to do

  1. Gather everyone in a circle
  2. Pass around the rubber bands and have each person get one.
  3. Have participants hook a finger inside the rubber band and link them together with the person on the right and left so that they are linked in one big circle by a rubber band on the left and right.
  4. Have group members gradually step back stretching the rubber bands between them as far as possible without breaking them
  5. Observe the responses of the participants as the rubber bands are being stretched.

Discussion

  • What will happen if you continue to step apart?
  • Who will likely be hurt when the rubber bands break?
  • How is the tension like that in relationships with God, parents, family members, friends and others?
  • What are the things that connect us in relationships?
  • Make a list of some of the more significant relationships in your life. Who’s on your list? How are the significant to you?
  • What are the things that draw us closer?
  • What are the things that move us apart?
  • What are the consequences when we move away from God? Parents? Family members? Friends? Others?
  • Throughout life relationships are always changing. At times we draw closer to God and others while at other times we may drift apart or even break the relationships. At times there will be tension and sometimes there will even be hurt. How can we more effectively manage relationships with others? Is it possible to end a relationship without causing hurt? What are some ways we can minimize the pain in relationships? How can we handle things gently?
  • The closer to a person we are, the stronger the bonds that develop and more connections are established. This is similar to adding more rubber bands between a person and thicker rubber bands. How does this increase the risks for hurt if the relationship is broken?
  • What are some of the biblical instructions regarding relationships with other Christians? With God? With family members? With our parents? With the lost? In general?

Closing Application
What are some ways you can manage your relationships better? With God? With your parents? Friends? Various family members? The lost? Significant people in your lives?

A few of the many Scripture References on relationships
James 4:8
Galatians 6:2
Exodus 20:12
Ephesians 4:26
Philippians 2:3-4
Philippians 2:14
Proverbs 4:1-17
Proverbs 6:20-23
Ephesians 6:1-4
1 Timothy 5:1-3
Matthew 7:12


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Teaching Tip: Get youth out of their seats!

There is an ancient Chinese proverb that states, “Tell me and I will forget, Show me and I may remember, Involve me and I will understand.” Too often our lessons with youth focus on “Show and Tell” and not necessarily in that order. Unfortunately, far too many youth lessons focus on just “Tell.” Get youth physically involved or you risk them disengaging after awhile due to the lack of movement. Youth need opportunities to release a little of that pent up energy. They need to be involved to get the most understanding from the lesson. Just make sure you keep them focused rather than distract them. What they do needs to explicitly link to what you want to tell the youth.

Object Lessons
The next time you do an “Object Lesson” get the youth to interact with the object in some way. Play a game with it. Get youth to pass it around. Get youth to model it. Get youth to wear it. And then link what the youth do with the object into your object lesson in some way inviting them INTO the lesson.

Stories
Youth love stories. Actually, everyone loves stories. And one of the greatest teaching techniques is to “Tell” a story so that people will remember the point. But the next time you tell a story to youth, get the youth personally involved in some way. Assign some of the youth parts to act as you tell the story. Assign some of the youth to make specific sound effects when certain cues are given in your story. Assign certain actions or facial expressions for youth to do when specific key words or other cues are given in the story. Decorate the youth room so that a similar environment is created as in the story you want to tell. Instead of saying “Imagine if we were all standing in a circle……”, get them into a circle. Ask youth to create a modern version of a familiar story and to act it out as the tell it. Next time you use a story, don’t just get them on the edge of their seats, get them out of their seats, inviting them INTO the story!

The next time you teach youth, if you are doing a lot of show and tell, think about ways you can involve your youth so the information will resonate and stick. Get them out of their seats!

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Humorous Questions of Life

– If you throw a cat out a car window does it become kitty litter?
– If corn oil comes from corn, where does baby oil come from?
– When a cow laughs does milk go up its nose?
– Why do they put braille on the number pads of drive-through bank machines?
– If nothing sticks to Teflon, how do they stick Teflon on the pan?
– How do they get a deer to cross at that yellow road sign?
– If it’s tourist season, why can’t we shoot them?
– What’s another word for thesaurus?
– Why do they sterilize the needles for lethal injections?
– What do they use to ship styrofoam?
– Why is abbreviation such a long word?
– Why is there an expiration date on my sour cream container?
– Why do kamikaze pilots wear helmets?
– How do you know when it’s time to tune your bagpipes?
– When you choke a smurf, what color does it turn?
– Do blind Eskimos have seeing-eye sled dogs?
– Why do they call it a TV set when you only get one?
– Do radioactive cats have 18 half-lives?
– If you shoot a mime, should you use a silencer?

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The Perfect Church

I think that I shall never see
A church that’s all it ought to be.
A church whose members never stray
Beyond the straight and narrow way.

A church that has no empty pews
Whose pastor never has the blues.
A church whose deacons always deak
And none are proud and all are meek.

Where gossips never peddle lies
Or make complaints or criticize
Where all are always sweet and kind
And all to others’ faults are blind.

Such perfect churches there may be
But none of them are known to me.
But still I’ll work and pray and plan
To make our church the best I can.

—-Author Unknown


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John 3:16

A little boy was selling newspapers on the corner, the people were in and out of the cold. The little boy was so cold that he wasn’t trying to sell many papers.

He walked up to a policeman and said, “Mister, you wouldn’t happen to know where a poor boy could find a warm place to sleep tonight would you? You see, I sleep in a box up around the corner there and down the alley and it’s awful cold in there for tonight. Sure would be nice to have a warm place to stay.”

The policeman looked down at the little boy and said, “You go down the street to that big white house and you knock on the door. When they come out the door you just say John 3:16, and they will let you in.”

So he did. He walked up the steps and knocked on the door, and a lady answered. He looked up and said,
“John 3:16.” The lady said, “Come on in, Son.”

She took him in and she sat him down in a split bottom rocker in front of a great big old fireplace, and she went
off. The boy sat there for a while and thought to himself: John 3:16…I don’t understand it, but it sure makes
a cold boy warm.

Later she came back and asked him “Are you hungry ?” He said, “Well, just a little. I haven’t eaten in a couple of
days, and I guess I could stand a little bit of food,” The lady took him in the kitchen and sat him down to a table full of wonderful food. He ate and ate until he couldn’t eat any more. Then he thought to himself: John 3:16 …Boy, I sure don’t understand it but it sure makes a hungry boy full.

She took him upstairs to a bathroom to a huge bathtub filled with warm water, and he sat there and soaked for a
while. As he soaked, he thought to himself: John 3:16… I sure don’t understand it, but it sure makes a dirty boy
clean. You know, I’ve not had a bath, a real bath, in my whole life. The only bath I ever had was when I stood in
front of that big old fire hydrant as they flushed it out. The lady came in and got him. She took him to a room,
tucked him into a big old feather bed, pulled the covers up around his neck, kissed him goodnight and turned out
the lights. As he lay in the darkness and looked out the window at the snow coming down on that cold night,
he thought to himself: John 3:16 …I don’t understand it but it sure makes a tired boy rested.

The next morning the lady came back up and took him down again to that same big table full of food. After he
ate, she took him back to that same big old split bottom rocker in front of the fireplace and picked up a big old Bible.

She sat down in front of him and looked into his young face. “Do you understand John 3:16 ? ” she asked gently. He
replied, “No, Ma’am, I don’t. The first time I ever heard it was last night when the policeman told me to use it,” She opened the Bible to John 3:16 and began to explain to him about Jesus. Right there, in front of that big old fireplace, he gave his heart and life to Jesus. He sat there and thought: John 3:16 — don’t understand it, but it sure makes a lost boy feel safe.

You know, I have to confess I don’t understand it either, how God was willing to send His Son to die for me, and how Jesus would agree to do such a thing. I don’t understand the agony of the Father and every angel in heaven as they watched Jesus suffer and die. I don’t understand the intense love for ME that kept Jesus on the cross till the end. I don’t understand it, but it sure does make life worth living.

John 3:16 For God so loved the world, that he gave his only begotten Son, that whosoever believeth in him should
not perish, but have everlasting life.

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