Welcoming new youth to the group

Fall is a time of new beginnings for many at school.

Whenever a new person joins the youth group or when a group of people come together for the first time, there is often a period of unease and tension. It is not because anyone has done anything wrong or because people are mean – it is simply because most of us have our guard up when we meet someone new for the first time. To make new persons feel at ease and relax the participants in a newly formed group, there are many games and activities that can be used as icebreakers and integration techniques.

Whether it is a new person joining a youth club, school or church group, or just a group of youth meeting together for the first time, the icebreakers must come as early as possible during the meeting. This will make each person feel like an integral part of the group, encourage active participation of all during activities and thus make the accomplishment of the goals of the group much easier.

So what are some of these icebreakers?

Round Repeat
Round repeat is a good example. Here, the persons in the youth group stand in a circle. The first person to be chosen is asked to say their name. This should be loud enough for everyone else to hear. Then the second person says the first person’s name and their own name. The next person gives the names of the two people in front and their own name. This goes on until the last participant who may be required to say the names of every single person in the group. This is a great way of learning the names. If the group is large, the last persons in the circle will have a difficult time recalling all the names. But the amount of fun during the game will have effectively broken any psychological walls between the youth.

Zip and Zap
Zip and Zap is another great game to break the ice and learn people’s names. The group sits in a circle. One person is chosen to sit in the centre of a circle as the first leader of the game. The simple rules of the game are then explained – Zip is right and Zap is left. The leader then points to anyone in the circle and says ‘Zip!’. The person pointed at gives the name of the person who is sitting on his or her right. If the leader says ‘Zap!’, the person gives the name of the person sitting on his left.

When the leader points at someone and says ‘Zip-Zap!’, the youth sitting on the immediate left and right of the person must switch places. If the call is ‘Zip-Zip!’, the person pointed at must say the name of the person seated two spaces away to their right. Same will apply to ‘Zap-Zap!’ only this time it will be their left. Anyone who is unable to correctly recall a name has to leave the circle perimeter and sit at the centre. The game continues until the last person is eliminated or until the last people remaining can remember the names of every person still on the circle.

Artistic Collaboration
A game that can be used for integration or even team building in a group of youth is artistic collaboration. The youth are grouped in sets of six or so persons. The six persons are assigned a table and each person is given a paper and a different color of crayon. They are then given the go ahead to start drawing a picture. When the coordinator shouts ‘change!’, all stand to move and sit on the chair on their right. They then continue drawing someone else’s picture. This goes on until everyone comes back to their original sitting position and looks at the finished picture!

 

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A Father’s Anguishing Decision – Sacrifice of a Son

After a few of the usual Sunday evening hymns, the church’s preacher once again slowly stood up, walked over to the pulpit, and gave a very brief introduction of his childhood friend. With that, an elderly man stepped up to the pulpit to speak.

“A father, his son, and a friend of his son were sailing off the Pacific Coast,” he began, “when a fast approaching storm blocked any attempt to get back to shore. The waves were so high, that even though the father was an experienced sailor, he could not keep the boat upright, and the three were swept into the ocean.”

The old man hesitated for a moment, making eye contact with two teenagers who were, for the first time since the service began, looking somewhat interested in his story. He continued, “Grabbing a rescue line, the father had to make the most excruciating decision of his life….to which boy he would throw the other end of the line. He only had seconds to make the decision. The father knew that his son was a Christian, and he also knew that his son’s friend was not. The agony of his decision could not be matched by the torrent of waves. As the father yelled out, ‘I love you, son!’ he threw the line to his son’s friend. By the time he pulled the friend back to the capsized boat, his son had disappeared beyond the raging swells into the black of night. His body was never recovered.”

By this time, the two teenagers were sitting straighter in the pew, waiting for the next words to come out of the old man’s mouth. “The father,” he continued, “knew his son would step into eternity with Jesus, and he could not bear the thought of his son’s friend stepping into an eternity without Jesus. Therefore, he sacrificed his son. How great is the love of God that He should do the same for us.” With that, the old man turned and sat back down in his chair as silence filled the room.

Within minutes after the service ended, the two teenagers were at the old man’s side. “That was a nice story,” politely started one of the boys, “but I don’t think it was very realistic for a father to give up his son’s life in hopes that the other boy would become a Christian.”

“Well, you’ve got a point there,” the old man replied, glancing down at his worn Bible. A big smile broadened his narrow face, and he once again looked up at the boys and said, “It sure isn’t very realistic, is it? But I’m standing here today to tell you that THAT story gives me a glimpse of what it must have been like for God to give up His Son for me. You see….I was the son’s friend.”

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Lessons from the Geese

Fact: As each bird flaps its wings, it creates an uplift for the bird following. By flying in a “V” formation, the whole flock adds 71% to the flying range than if each bird flew alone.

Lesson: People who share a common direction and sense of community can get where they are going quicker and easier when they are traveling on the thrust of one another.

Fact: Whenever a goose falls out of formation, it suddenly feels the drag and resistance of trying to fly alone, and quickly gets back in formation to take advantage of the “lifting power” of the bird immediately in front.

Lesson: If we have as much sense as a goose, we will stay in formation with those who are headed where we want to go.

Fact: When the lead goose gets tired, it rotates back into the formation and another goose flies at point position.

Lesson: It pays to take turns doing the hard tasks and sharing leadership — interdependent with each other.

Fact: The geese in formation honk from behind to encourage those up front to keep up their speed.
Lesson: We need to be sure our honking from behind is encouraging, not something less helpful.

Fact: When a goose gets sick or wounded, two geese drop out of formation and follow him down to help and protect it. They stay with it until it is either able to fly again or dies. Then they launch out on their own, with another formation, or catch up with the flock.

Lesson: If we have as much sense as the geese, we’ll stand by each other like that.

Prayer: Lord, help us to remember to strive together as we travel on our faith journeys, whether in our families, small youth groups, or as youth leaders, so that we, like the geese, can ‘increase our flying range’ in the tasks you set for us. Help us to be willing to take turns in these tasks, to know when to learn something new or take time to be refreshed. Make us willing to take a moment or two from a busy day or hour to encourage and listen to our fellow travelers, to support them in their need. Most of all, Lord, help us to listen to your voice as you guide us on our way. Amen.

 


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Good Youth Sermon Titles

A good youth sermon title is a hook on which the message can hang and be easily retrieved from memory. A really good title will capture the interest of the youth before you even get up to preach the youth sermon. Here are some key components of a good youth sermon title:

  1. A good youth sermon title must relate to the message of the sermon in some way.
    Of course this always implies that the sermon must have a meaningful message to begin with. Whether the title is taken from the Bible text, a major illustration, or some other hook, youth should see the connection when the sermon is completed. In fact, some have said that the best title is ONLY fully understood at the end of the youth sermon.
  2. A good youth sermon title should not promise too much or give the whole sermon away.
    With some sermon titles, youth don’t even need to listen to the sermon because you are telling them the main message or key learning point before they even listen to the sermon
  3. A good youth sermon title should pique the youth’s interest and keep them engaged and curious.
    It should help to orient the youth before they get to the church. Your sermon title should give the youth enough to draw them in before the sermon begins, but you don’t want to give away too much so your sermon is anti-climatic.


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Youth Ministers Wish Senior Pastors Would

  1. take at least 2 hours a week and disciple me, train me in all areas of ministry, hold me accountable, be honest even when it hurts, correct me, and encourage me.
  2. ask for my input on decisions that affect my ministry.
  3. recognize the need to communicate more with me.
  4. understand that a lack of planning on his part does constitute an emergency on my part.
  5. see the youth as a vital force of the church now, not just in the future.
  6. dedicate more time in building a personal relationship with me and not just a working relationship.
  7. allow me to focus more on youth ministry and not so much on associate duties.
  8. be more relevant in his thinking so we could reach more people effectively.
  9. cast more vision to the staff as a whole and not keep us guessing where his heart is.
  10. grant more freedom to spend money on effective youth ministry outreaches and events that have eternal rewards.
  11. feel a freedom to delegate more ministry to lay leaders to take pressure off the staff.
  12. spend more time focusing on the ministry within the church than on his golf game.
  13. be more compassionate toward people.
  14. live what he preaches.
  15. show more respect to his wife in public.
  16. be more relevant by not restricting the youth ministry from using multimedia in presenting the gospel.
  17. plan ahead and not overwhelm me with too many responsibilities, thus respecting my time.
  18. affirm me more.
  19. not take me for granted.
  20. have more of a spirit of excellence pertaining to his ministry and leadership to others.

Taken from an informal poll received on a youth pastors Email list serve


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Back to School Youth Room Decorations Ideas

Back to School Preparations

After the school summer break, its time to head back to school and most youth ministers want to kick off the new school year with a big bang. Children are promoted up into the youth group, some youth leaders have graduated and new leaders among the youth must rise up and take over new responsibilities. Some students transfer to new schools, and new friends were made during the summer break. Often new volunteers start their service at this time. A simple and great way to indicate to the youth that something new and exciting is coming and to welcome all these changes and transitions is to decorate or re-decorate the youth room.

Youth Room Decoration Ideas

Trying to decide the best way to decorate or re-decorate the youth room can be very daunting. If you can, get the youth involved in the process. You want the youth room to look good and inviting and also to engage the youth in your group. Even if you don’t have a dedicated room for the youth, there are things you can do to spruce up the room you are using. And, it lets everyone know that great things are ahead and this year is going to be something special.

Here are a few ideas and suggestions for decorating the youth room when youth go back to school for a new school year:

Excitement and Anticipation
It’s kind of hard to sell the youth on the idea that there are great new things ahead, when the youth room looks the same as it did for the past few months. Although the church may have certain guidelines and you also have to consider other uses of the room there is always something you can do to add life and excitement. Of course if you have the primary use of a room you can do so much more.

Functional
One of the first things you have to remember is that the youth room decorations must serve its primary function. If it is a classroom it needs to be conducive to a learning situation. If it is a recreation room you want to have open spaces and room for people to move. So as you think through your youth room decorations, be sure to first examine what you hope will happen in the room and update it in a way to be conducive to that. Couches and Bean bag chairs create a very different feeling than classroom desks. Bright direct lights create a different atmosphere that indirect and ambient lighting. Music is a very dramatic way to set the mood for a room. You should try to have different areas in your room for different activities. A quiet area where the decor is more subtle and peaceful where students can sit and read or relax is always appreciated.

Attractive / Inviting
The youth room although being used by youth is also being used for long periods by you. This means that it should look nice and be comfortable. You should decorate it so that you can look around and be proud and pleased with the way it looks. You should place items that are relevant to your likes and the things that both you and the youth would want to be looking at and might even relate to the Back to School theme . While you want it to be exciting, you also don’t want it to be distracting and uncomfortable for those in the room.

Objects that invite curiosity and discussion
The youth room will look better with fun items in it and this can also encourage your class to talk about the items. Even if some of the items that you are placing in the room have little initial interest to the students you will be surprised how much they talk about them. Artifacts and pieces from around the Biblical world may start conversations of travel, Bible history and Bible geography without trying. This is one of the easiest ways to engage a youth room full of students to talk by not actually asking them anything.

Youth Focused
You should try to get the youth involved in decorating the youth room and having one wall dedicated to them is a great idea. You can make it the sharing wall where they put up things they like. You can then bring everyone together to discuss everyone’s different ideas and tastes, a room full of youth will often have many different tastes. Students love to be involved and they will often look after the youth room more if they have helped to create it. You are teaching them the lessons of respect and learning how to keep areas clean and tidy.

Dynamic with a lot of Variety
You should try to change the decor often and usually as you change into another subject or Biblical focus it is an idea to change the items on the walls.

Get creative
There are many different ideas that you can use for your youth room and often the only thing holding you back is your imagination. You do not need to spend a fortune getting a great looking room and with a little time, effort and enthusiasm you can create so much. Your students will love being in their youth room and will want to come in everyday. Youth will learn about God and Christian Living better in an environment that they enjoy being in.

Besides simply decorating the room, you might want to plan some games and icebreakers.

 


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Famous Bible Stories: Genesis

Genesis 1: Creation of the world
Genesis 2: Creation of Adam and Eve
Genesis 3: The forbidden fruit in Eden
Genesis 4: Cain and Abel
Genesis 6-9: Noah and the Flood
Genesis 11: The Tower of Babel
Genesis 12-18: Abraham
Genesis 19: Sodom and Gomorrah
Genesis 22, 24-27: Isaac
Genesis 28-35: Jacob
Genesis 37-50: Joseph (and the coat of many colours)


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Going over the Edge

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A youth sat frightened on the edge. It was only yesterday that she was taken from the valley to the mountaintop and now she was being asked to step out again. She was being asked to leave her most recent camp-out. Now she was being asked to leave her perch and abseil down the side of the cliff.

She had become well acquainted with her new position. It was predictable. It was comfortable. It was safe. She was sheltered from the uncertainties of life. She sat on the edge and looked at the rope, hanging from a tree and leading into the unknown. She looked at the equipment she was to wear. The rope was so thin and flexible. The equipment, at times, was uncomfortable.

She thought…
“This is no place for a woman to be! There’s nothing solid. You have no power over the wind. You’re at its mercy, it blowing you in new directions. Anyway, how is a woman supposed to be comfortable in that equipment and hanging from that tiny rope. Surely she had heard wrong! Everything she had known told her it was a bad idea. Everyone she talked to thought her crazy. That is except for God. As a matter of fact, it was God’s idea. That’s what bothered her. It bothered her because up to now, she had been happy where she was. Besides, she knew the type of people that did these things. They were crazy, radical, always going over the edge. They didn’t care what others thought of them, they just did things. She didn’t understand them and she didn’t want to– especially first hand! She’d rather watch! After all, the smart ones are those who don’t take risks. They are secure and stable. Aren’t they?”

Some of you can probably relate very well to this young woman. You know how she feels don’t you? You’ve been there. You’ve gone over the edge. You were uncertain, scared, having second thoughts even!

But I am talking about more than just learning the ropes. I am talking about the Christian life. You know the imbalance you can have by having one foot on the rock and the other in the unknown. You know the imbalance you can have when you have one foot in your will and one foot in God’s will. You’ve hung on to the rope for dear life. You know the butterflies that seem to swarm in your stomach when changes are in the “air”.

Hopefully at this stage of your life, changes will be in the air. Maybe you are in the midst of a decision and it has upset your entire way of life. It’s scary isn’t it. You are nice and comfortable and then you hear the call to step into the unknown. You hear the call to: … take a stand. … forgive. … change the way you live. … share Christ with someone. … sacrifice time or money or even yourself. … work in full time christian service. A battle begins within. Your heart may say yes, but your feet may say no. You may make up excuses and cling to the edge.

Walking the edge can be most uncomfortable of all.

Don’t feel alone. All of us are frightened by change. Everyone would rather stay at the edge and watch then step out into the unknown.

  • Noah did: “Build an ark? Yeah, what’s an ark? As a matter of fact, what is rain? What was that? THUNDER? Okay Lord!”
  • Abraham did: “So Lord, if I’ve got this right, you want me to take my only son up to that mountain and offer him as a sacrifice? I thought you said my descendants would be as numerous as the sands of the sea?” But early the next day he left, gets to the mountain top, ties Isaac down and then hears God say “Wait, Look behind you” BAAAAAH BAAAAH
  • Moses did: “Pick up the snake by its tail? Come on now. Everyone knows you pick a snake up by its head so it can’t bite you. Do you think I am crazy or something.” PSSSSS PSSSSS “Okay. Wow, look, it became a staff again!”
  • David did: “Goliath? You’ve got the wrong person God! I’m just a kid? But okay… How could I miss such a big target” SWOOSH! THUD!
  • Daniel did: “One way trip to a Lion’s den? “Nice kitty. Nice kitty.” ROARRRRR. “Oh, you have your jaws locked? Sorry, I don’t do dental work!”
  • Christ did: “Father, if there is any way, let this cup pass from me” “Lord, not thy will but thine be done.”

Eventually, you have to decide as they did! God’s will or yours?

All the above knew that the only thing worse than stepping out was the thought of denying God. When you step out, things won’t be as comfortable as before. The people watching make fun of you. The wind is uncertain and the rope is thin, sometimes you may have to just shut your eyes and hang on. You may even let go, or may not have the strength to hold on. Don’t worry. Christ will never let you fall. It isn’t easy, but its much safer being in God’s hands than in that of the world. God knows what he is doing. Ask Moses, or Noah, or Daniel or anyone else who has followed God.

Better yet, ask Jesus. He left His security and hung from a tree so that you might be washed clean of your sin by his blood.

Oh yeah, I last saw that young woman scaling a very impressive cliff with a gleam in her eye.


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Youth Alcohol Abuse

Preparation

  • On 10 sheets of paper place the numbers 1-10.
  • Tape these across the floor on one side of the room.
  • Ask youth to stand on the sheet of paper that corresponds to how they feel about the any or all the statements below. (scale: 1 highly disagree, 10 highly agree)
  • You may choose to ask youth why they have chosen their positions on the scale.

 

Statements

  1. Alcohol abuse is a serious problem at my school.
  2. Most parents of youth at my school do not know their teens drink.
  3. Most parents of youth at my school do not care if their teens drink.
  4. Drugs are not a problem at my school.
  5. Most youth at my school drink because they think alcohol tastes good.
  6. Most youth at my school drink because it is the cool thing to do.
  7. Christian youth at my school do not drink.
  8. It is a sin for youth to drink.
  9. A youth is affected only while actually using alcohol.
  10. A youth is an addict only when the addiction become apparent to others.
  11. Alcoholism is the third cause of early death behind cancer & heart disease.
  12. A youth is not addicted if he or she can periodically control his or her drinkingYouth with good mental health do not become addicted; imbalanced youth do.
  13. Cutting down can lead to cutting out alcohol all together.
  14. If you think you have had too much to drink, the best solution is to drink black coffee and get some fresh air.
  15. The stages of alcohol abuse are experimentation, then social-recreational use, preoccupation, then finally dependency.
  16. If a Christian youth were in a dark room, no one saw them buy the alcohol, and no one could see them, and they only drank a little, but did not get drunk, would it be wrong?

 

*These are questions for youth discussions. Different churches and individuals may have different perspectives on the issues. They can be used as an introductory discussion to “how we treat our body as a temple of God”, gray areas in scripture, purity, decisions and choices and a variety of other topics for youth.

 


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