Overexpecters

“When you stop achieving long enough to think about it, our world is full of overexpecters. They are in every profession, most of the schools, many of the shops, and (dare I say it?) in all the churches…

Because nobody screws up enough courage to tell overexpecters where to get off, these things keep happening:

  • The little child loses his love for art because he is told time and again to stop coloring outside the lines. Parents are often overexpecters.
  • The wife erodes in her joy around the house because she never seems to please the man she married. Husbands are often overexpecters.
  • The gifted and competent employee gets an ulcer because the boss finds it next to impossible to say two monosyllabic words, ‘good job.’ Employers are often overexpecters.
  • The once-dedicated, motivated pastor in a small church finally decides to change careers because he realizes he will never please his people. Church members are often overexpecters.
  • The high school athlete chooses to hang it up at midseason because he knows that no matter what, he’ll never satisfy. Coaches are often overexpecters.
  • And, yes, congregations get tired of being beaten and bruised with jabs, hooks, and uppercuts from pulpits. Preachers are often overexpecters…

I frequently think of Jesus as the Model. He promised people ‘rest’ if they would come to Him, not an endless list of unrealistic expections. He even said His yoke would be ‘easy’ and His burden ‘light.’ He was something else. Still is!”

 

Source: Charles R. Swindoll- “Growing Strong in the Seasons of Life”

Do we live according to expectations or purpose. Expectations come from outside ourselves. But purpose comes from within – knowing why we are here, what we were created for, and fulfilling that role in everything we do.

 


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17 Places to Find Potential Leaders for Your Youth Ministry

For most youth ministries, the summer months are very busy. A lot of youth ministers are conducting summer camps, organizing youth retreats, leading mission trips, and taking youth on special outings. No youth leader can do it alone and even if you are one of those who think you can do it alone, don’t.

Youth Pastors Need to Build a Youth Ministry Team

Building up a committed team of leaders and helpers for youth ministry will provide you valuable insights, additional talents, and more eyes, hands and footwork to keep the youth program running smoothly. As you invest in leaders it also develops shared ownership of the youth program that insures it continues effectively for many years to come even if you move on to a different church or ministry yourself.

Here are just a few of the benefits of building a youth ministry team:

Communication
When parents and church leaders are part of the team and understand the goals and programs, it makes it so much easier to communicate those goals to the congregation as well as avoid misunderstandings.

Commitment
Involvement generates commitment. When people see themselves as stakeholders in the ministry, they tend to be more committed to making it successful.

Care
It’s much easier for a group of people to attend to the varied and sometimes overwhelming needs of youth and show care on a much more personal level than for a single youth leader trying to care for a large youth group. For youth, time is important and the larger the youth group, the less time you will have for individuals in the group.

So how can you get started building a youth ministry team?

In the book, “Good to Great” by Jim Collins, he explains several powerful ideas for any company or organization. One of those principles is very appropriate for youth ministry “Get the right people on the bus, the wrong people off the bus, and the right people in the right seats – then figure out where to drive it.” Getting the right team in the right roles is the most important part of building a youth ministry team.

Here are 17 places to find potential youth leaders for your youth ministry team.

1. Surveys
Conduct a Talent / Interest Surveys for the entire congregation. Have the various roles and responsibilities for all church ministries listed. When new people join he church as members, also ask them to fill out Talent/ Interest Surveys. You’ll want to get to know them and observe their Christian walk and commitment over time, but that is true of anyone you consider for a youth ministry role.

2. Committed Church Members
Ask currently active Bible Study or Sunday school members to become youth leaders. Ask current cell group members to become youth leaders. People who are already committed to the church often make great additions to the youth ministry team.

3. Ask for Recommendations
Ask the current youth leaders to recommend Potential Leaders from the congregation. Chances are, the youth leaders you have now also know other friends in the church who would be great leaders. You can also ask the teens in your church, “Who in the church do you think would make a great youth leader?” Youth are very aware of the people in the church who already make them feel welcome and loved. Ask Sunday school members (Or Bible Study Leaders) to recommend potential leaders. They are very aware of those in their studies and classes that have a mature or growing faith that would be great Bible Teachers or Sunday School Teachers. Additionally, ask the current church leadership to recommend potential youth leaders. Their circle of relationships may include many people that are not too familiar to you, but who would make great leaders. Don’t forget to ask deacons or elders in addition to the other pastoral leaders.

4. Existing Short term Programs
One of these is Vacation Bible School. Many churches hold these programs for children in the church. It’s a short commitment and usually gets a lot of volunteers. Some of those working with the older children might make great youth leaders as well.

5. Previous Leaders
Many people serve in leadership positions and then at times take break due to family or work commitments and other various reasons. In time they are often willing to jump back into a ministry position if asked.

6. Committed people who aren’t already doing something. 
It sometimes seem that there are the few same people in the church doing all the work. Ministry leaders see their commitment and talents and give them more to do. But sometimes, there are others who aren’t really ambitious enough to volunteer who just need a little nudge to get them involved. It’s much easier to teach a committed member a few skills in ministering to youth than to teach commitment to someone who has the interest but lacks the commitment.

7. Existing Lists
Take out the Church membership roll, the Sunday School Rosters, Cell group rosters, participant lists in various church training programs and ministry opportunities and read through the names. If you just try to list form your own memory you will miss many of the precious souls who are often present, but not foremost in your thoughts. Many of these are valuable gems simply waiting to be shaped and polished!

8. Returning Church Members
Previous students who have gone off to college and come back for a summer break or having completed their college education often make excellent youth leaders. They may need a little more guidance but they make up for the lack of experience with an abundance of energy. Returning servicemen and women also make great youth leaders. They typically are very disciplined and work very hard.

9. Persons attending training conferences and conventions
The fact that these people are taking the extra effort to grow and mature their faith makes them good candidates for potential youth positions. It may also reflect a more flexible schedule that is helpful when serving youth.

10. Training Courses
Offer a training course for youth workers, parents, or anyone else that wants to better understand youth. Those that attend the course obviously must have an interest and some of them might make great additions to your youth ministry team. You can offer general leadership classes or potential Teacher classes etc. as well.

11. People in administrative positions
Members often serve in administrative positions because they want to contribute but are not yet ready to take a ministry role. For many this is the first step into ministry and once they gain confidence and understanding they are ready to move on to something more hands on.

12. People who work with youth outside the church
Coaches, school teachers, school administrators and many other people work with youth outside the church. Some of them may be looking for church to be a break away from the routine work with youth. But there are still others who would welcome the opportunity to minister to you at church and youth functions.

13. People who are Leaders in their Careers
There are business men and women in every church whose work requires leadership skills. They can be leaders in a variety of situations. There may also be others who are leaders in the community as well. Give them an opportunity to be spiritual leaders to your teens.

14. People with Free time
Retired Persons often have lots of time and wisdom to contribute to any youth program. They may not have the energy but they certainly have lots of love and affection. You can often find meaningful roles for them in your youth program. Some examples might be writing personal postcards, praying for youth, and for those with a bit more energy and mobility can often put their younger counterparts to shame in serving God.

15. New Church Members
When people transfer from another church, their churches may highlight their previous service as part of the recommendation or transfer of membership. Nurturing new members in a New Members class also should include some teaching on discovering gifts and finding places of service in the church.

16. Contributors to the Youth Ministry
There are often people in the church that contribute to the youth ministry by providing transport, food, places for meetings, or even money. It is such people that provide a backbone for many of the youth groups. Even so, some might be willing to become a little more personally involved if asked.

17. Parents
It’s rare that a parent makes a good youth leader in the church if that role is serving over his or her own teens. During adolescence, teens start looking for significant role models outside the immediate family. Teenage years can also be turbulent and emotionally charged, thus church can be an oasis away from that trouble. If both teen and parent are ok with it, it works out fantastic. Biblical responsibility for raising Godly men and women, after all, rests with the parents. But for many parents and youth, this simply isn’t going to be a god idea yet. But there are often other leadership roles with a different class or age group, which are very suitable even when a parent has teens in the youth program.

A Final Note
I wanted to give you 10 places to find youth leaders and help for your youth ministry, but as I started writing more ideas came to mind. Simply remember, we are one body of Christ with many parts and we are all different but also all needed. Pray for God’s guidance to show you those to approach and that he would steer their hearts toward places to serve in your ministry. Personally, I believe that there is a place for everyone in the church. We just need to get the right people into the right seats and let God do the driving on our journey heavenward!

Have more ideas? Why not share them in the comments below. Where do you go to find leaders for youth youth ministry team?


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Changes

She’s gone.
Pretty, young, and promising.
All of life ahead.
Always eager to please us.
Bubbly, never withdrawn.
Enough self-confidence for the whole world.
So suddenly it took her.
We weren’t prepared though we were told it would happen soon.
It crept up on us so unexpectedly.
One day everything was fine.
Overnight our lives were dramatically changed.
We’ve talked with others who have experienced the same loss.
It helps.
What, you sympathetically ask, happened to our precious child?

ADOLESCENCE! Need I say more!This poem was sent to me by a friend many years ago. It expresses humorous thoughts from a parent on the transition from childhood to adolescence. A universal question among parents is, “Where has my child gone?” “Who replaced my child with this teenager?”

 


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Samuel – A Youth Living the Christian Life

Focal Passage: I Samuel 2:18-21; 26 A brief sermon outline prepared by Ken Sapp Introduction

Friar Michael Hayduk, pastor of St. Mary’s Byzantine Catholic church in Cleveland Ohio visited the churches preschool and day-care center one day. A new group of little ones had started at the center, and one boy, about 3 years old looked at the priest in his robe and clerical collar and asked “Why do you dress funny?” Friar Hayduk told him he was a priest and this was the uniform priests wear. Then the little boy pointed to Hayduk’s clerical collar insert and asked… “Does that hurt… do you have a Boo-boo there?” Friar Hayduk took the plastic collar insert out and showed it to the little 3 year old boy. The name of the manufacturer is embossed on the reverse side. The boy felt the letters and the priest asked him, “Do you know what those words say?” “Yes I do!” said the boy, who was not old enough to read. “It says, ‘Kills ticks and fleas up to six months!’”

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Today we are looking at the story of Samuel. He’s one of the youth mentioned in the Bible for whom we have some extensive background. At a very young age he’s placed in the role and uniform of a devout follower of God. But even though he may have wore the uniform (a linen ephod) and had a religious environment for his home.. it was some time before the boy fit the uniform, before he took on the character of a devout follower of God. Its one thing to wear a uniform… but its another thing to embody the characteristics so that the uniform is no longer needed to show others your identity.

I. Devout family – Born to Hannah and Elkanah

A. Father: Elkanah (I Samuel 1:1-8)

  1. Levite
    • PK (Priest Kid) a member of those chosen to be priests.
    • Attended religious feasts/ presented a yearly sacrifice.
    • During the time of Elkanah in the nation of Israel there was a general neglect & corruption of religion.
    • Eli the High Priests’ sons were typical of the neglect and Corruption of the religion of the day (2:1-17)
    • The father is the priest of the home… I Peter 2:9 describes us all as a royal priesthood. In Biblical times the head of the family carried out the priestly duties in the home.
  2. Leader in the Home
    • Elkanah took Hannah and his other wife, Peninnah, with him for the sacrifice showing himself the spiritual leader.
    • Who’s the driving force in your home when it comes to Spiritual matters? Who’s the spiritual pacesetter, the spiritual Leader?
  3. Loving husband
    • Encouraged wife to focus on blessings instead of afflictions
    • Sought to share in Hannah’s troubles.
    • “loved her more than 10 sons”

B. Mother: Hannah (I Samuel 1: 9 – 20)

  1. Fervent in prayer
    • seen as the solution to her problems
  2. Faith
    • Faith that her prayers for a son would be answered
  3. Faithful to Commitment
    • Dedicating her son to God by taking care of him until the time she left him. Hannah visited him yearly at the temple (Heartbroken) She brought him a linen ephod

C. Spiritual Mentor: Eli

  1. Leader – ministered under Eli and apparently to Eli – 2:18, 3:1
  2. Lenient father – Eli wasn’t the best mentor… as a matter of fact Samuels first message from God was a rebuke against Eli for his raising of his own sons and failing to restrain them.
  3. Lesson – Eli guided Samuel to obey God’s voice – While he was a leader in authority over Samuel, and although he wasn’t a perfect leader, he did teach Samuel an essential lesson – to Listen to and obey God’s Voice.

II. Divided family.

A. Triple parent home.

  1. Peninnah, Elkanah’s other wife bore several children, but Hannah was barren until the time of Samuel. Because of this, Penninah taunted Hannah and provoked her. Even so, Hannah did not respond in like manner.
  2. Samuel was probably a victim of similar taunts by his older stepbrothers and stepsisters
  3. It wasn’t a perfect home, but God was honored there! God’s grace is sufficient to fill in the gaps

Transition

After church one Sunday morning a young boy suddenly announced to his mother, “Mom, I’ve decided I’m going to be a minister when I grow up.” That’s ok with us,” the mother said, “but what made you decide to be a minister?” “Well,” the boy said, “I’ll have to go to church on Sunday anyway, and I figure it will be more fun to stand up and yell then to sit still and listen.”

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Samuel also made a decision to become one who speaks the “Word of God.” His parents started the process, but somewhere along the line, Samuel quit living off the faith of his parents and started living in his own faith in God.

III. Development into a man of God (I Samuel 1:21-28)

A. Dedication to God before his birth – Parents Choice

  1. He was taken to the temple at a young age
  2. After weaned from his mother’s breast (age 3)
  3. or from childish things (age 8-11)

B. Devotion to God – Samuel’s Choice

  1. Samuel worshipped God (1:28)
  2. Raised in a religious environment – the temple – parent’s choice
  3. Nazarite – Mother’s choice – did not cut hair, did not drink alcohol – avoided certain things to set themselves apart for God’s service
  4. Peer pressure from Eli’s sons to conform to their sinfulness. Even in the church there may be some negative pressure

C. Disciplined life – Samuel’s Choice

  1. Discipline of Samuel as opposed to Eli’s undisciplined sons (3:1-11)
  2. One night Samuel heard God and thought Eli was calling him. He ran to Eli, showing his ready obedience.
  3. He served God, but he did not yet know God or God’s call.
    • 1:28 Samuel worshipped God – his choice
    • 2:18 ministered in temple
    • 2:26 As he ministered to the Lord he grew before the Lord. Grew in strength, stature, understanding, and in favor with God and men. (The same was spoken of Christ in Luke 2:52)
    • 3:1 ministered
    • 3:7 “He did not know God”
    • 3:7 “Word of God was not yet revealed to him”
    • 3:19 God was with him
    • 3:21 God Revealed himself to Samuel through his Word
  4. Eli helped him recognize God’s call but it was his choice of Obedience that made him a man of God. Every youth must come to a point where he stops living off the faith of his parents and begins living in obedience as a result of his own faith in God!
  5. As a servant of God, Samuel listened and, as a result, God was able to ultimately speak through him as well.
    • God knew Samuel as an individual
    • Samuel was given the privacy to discover his identity with God… without someone telling him how to do it.
    • Eli encouraged Samuel

D. Divine Call – Samuel’s Choice (3:19-4:1) After hearing God, and coming to know God, He made a choice to obey God he became:

  1. Holy prophet – Your child proclaims God’s Word in life an action. Lifts up God before the nation
  2. High priest – Serves God – the youth are our leaders for tomorrow, but have a role even today and may hear God better than us at times.
  3. Honest judge – Person of integrity living a life of Godly values and wisdom.


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