Ways to Lose Communication with Teens

question.jpgUse Sarcasm
“Anybody ought to know better than that!” -“You’re acting just like you’re two years old! Where’s your baby bottle?” It’s devastating to a teenager to be “put down” (talked sarcastically to) in front of his peers. Wait until alone with a teenager to discipline him or her if it is at all possible! Take them aside if needed.…

Who’s Who

man_desk_tired_sm_wht.gifprogrammer is someone who solves a problem you didn’t know you had in a way you don’t understand.

An auditor is someone who arrives after the battle and bayonets all the wounded.

banker is a fellow who lends you his umbrella when the sun is shining and wants it back the minute it begins to rain. (Mark Twain)…

Fearing Failure

In “Shepherd Leadership”, authors McCormick and Davenport remind Christian leaders to allow for second chances and gently restore the fallen. They write:

Thomas Edison filed an impressive 1,093 patents with the U.S. Patent Office, and behind each one of those 1,093 successes lay hundreds and sometimes thousands of failures. Edison mastered the art of recovering from failure with lessons in …

Born to Lose?

Once walking through the twisted little streets of Kowloon in Hong Kong, I came upon a tattoo studio. In the window were displayed samples of the tattoos available. On the chest or arms you could have tattooed an anchor or flag or mermaid or whatever. But what struck me with force were three words that could be tattooed on one’s …

You Can Trust Him

He is unparalleled and unprecedented.
He is the centerpiece of civilization.
He is the superlative of all excellence.
He is the sum of human greatness.
He is the source of divine grace.
His name is the only one able to save,
and his blood is the only power able to cleanse.
His ear is open to the sinner’s call.
His …

Identifying Feelings

For a unique perspective on a Biblical story, provide this list of emotions to the youth and have them choose what the various Bible personalities might be feeling at different points in the story.

Positive Feelings
Affectionate, Alive, Amused, Accepted, Beautiful, Brave, Calm, Capable, Caring, Cheerful, Cherished, Comfortable, Competent, Concerned, Confident, Content, Courageous, Curious, Delighted, Desirable, Eager, Excited, Forgiving, Friendly, …

Just Like You

Once there was a congregation in which every member was just like you. Each one cooperated and supported every church program just the way you have been doing. Everyone worked as hard and attended the same services and church functions as you do. The elders, the deacons, and the preacher were all as interested in the church as you are …

Paradoxical Commandments of Teaching

  • Youth are illogical, unreasonable, and self-centered. Develop a trusting, caring relationship anyway.
  • If you develop an unconditional philosophy in loving your youth, you may be accused of selfish motives. Love without hooks anyway.
  • If you are sucessful in your teaching, you may generate jealousy and envy from some people. Succeed anyway.
  • The little things you do for your youth will