In God All the Time

When H. B. Macartney, an Australian pastor, visited Hudson Taylor in China, he was amazed at the missionary’s serenity in spite of his many burdens and his busy schedule. Macartney finally mustered up the courage to say, “You are occupied with millions, I with tens. Your letters are pressingly important, mine of comparatively little value. Yet I am worried and distressed while you are always calm. Tell me, what makes the difference?” Taylor replied, “I could not possibly get through the work I have to do without the peace of God which passes all understanding keeping my heart and mind.”

Macartney later wrote, “He was in God all the time, and God was in him. It was the true abiding spoken of in John 15.”

 

How to Listen So Youth Will Talk More

  1. Give your undivided attention. Show with your body language that you want to listen to that one person. Maintain appropriate eye contact. Occasionally during the conversation call the youth by name.
  2. Concentrate on what the youth is saying. Because you can listen faster than the other person can speak, you will be tempted to think about something else or to interrupt.
  3. Stop talking. You cannot listen if you are talking. James said, “be quick to listen, slow to speak” (1:19, NIV).
  4. Be honest. Speak the truth in gentleness and love. Sometimes you will be in a situation in which a youth wants to talk to you, but you do not have enough time. Be honest and arrange another time to get together.
  5. Acknowledge feelings. Sometimes a youth will specifically state his or her feelings such as “I’m so mad!” or “This is exciting!” or “I’ve been so discouraged.” If so, repeat back or paraphrase the feeling words used in order to communicate that you heard the feeling. Often, a feeling is not put into words but is communicated through vocal communication (such as loudness, pitch, speed, or emphasis) or body language (such as facial expressions, gestures, moving toward or away from you, or touching). Let the youth know you have observed the feeling but let the youth correct you if you are wrong. You might say, “I get the impression that you are hurt. Am I right?” Allowing emotion is not easy. Sometimes feelings are expressed in ways that make us feel uncomfortable. But when you attempt to squelch a person’s feelings, you are meeting your need for comfort, not the other person’s need.
  6. Avoid advice and problem solving. A youth may say, “I’m not sure what I ought to do” or “I need your help” or “I have a problem.” Your immediate thought is that the youth is asking for advice or a solution to the problem. However, that is not what was said. More likely, he or she simply needs to talk to someone about the situation.
  7. Be patient. Allow plenty of time. Do not expect all issues to be settled immediately. Don’t lose faith in God’s ability to help the youth solve his or her own problems if they can or need to be solved. Do not make decisions for the youth to speed up the process. Trust God to work in the youth’s life in ways you cannot.
  8. Allow silence. It gives the youth time to reflect on what has already been said. Sometimes he or she is using the period of silence to decide whether to share with you at a deeper level.
  9. Invite the youth to talk more. Ask open-ended rather than yes-no and specific information questions. Such questions lead to a dead end or only satisfy your curiosity. Questions based on what has already been expressed allow you to follow the direction the youth wants to take.
  10. Tell about yourself. Hearing the youth’s story often reminds you of an incident or event in your own life. Resist the temptation to tell your story if the result will be shifting the attention to yourself. When you feel it is appropriate to tell your story, make it brief. The purpose of sharing your experience should be to give the youth permission to continue his or her story.

When you listen better, youth will talk more and share with you on a deeper level. Practice improving your ability to listen.


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A blessing

Christ be with you
Christ within you
Christ behind you
Christ before you
Christ beside you
Christ to win you
Christ to comfort and restore you
Christ beneath you
Christ above you
Christ in quiet
Christ in danger
Christ in hearts of all that love you
Christ in mouth of friend and stranger.

Why include Recreation and Games in Youth Ministry?

Youth programs that are “too spiritual” for recreation probably will not achieve those spiritual goals. Recreation is an essential part of youth ministry for several reasons:

  • Life-changing youth ministry primarily takes place in the context of relationships. Most young people’s lives are changed by gospel truth as that truth is interpreted in relationships. Games and recreation build relationships
  • Youth in churches that only permit very serious study sessions seldom discover trusting friendships that can lead to discipling. Recreation and games build trust.
  • Recreation can provide a way for teenagers to express hidden abilities, leading to an observable change in feelings of self-worth.
  • Quality recreation also can help troubled youth cope with stress. Contemporary teenagers are pressured to grow up quickly. Stress is a daily part of most teenagers lives. Laughing and enjoying a game of volleyball car significantly reduce the stress which these teenagers carried when they arrived at your youth meeting.


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Trust Fall

Game Description
The trust fall is one of the most dramatic trust games. Use this group building game to build community, teamwork, and trust within the group as members rely on the protection of the group to prevent themselves from being injured.

Game Materials

  • A raised platform of some type – a stump, small wall, table, ladder, etc. The platform should be no higher than 6 feet (less than 2 meters) and at least the height of about 4 feet (about 1 meter).
  • There should be 10-12 individuals standing on level ground to serve as catchers.

Game Preparation
This game requires a minimum of 10-12 persons to have appropriate protection. Impress upon participants that this is not a time for joking around, but a time to be serious and inspire trust in each other. They need to be encouraging and affirming, helping to alleviate the fear associated with trusting someone else.

Game Play

  1. Begin by asking a youth to stand on the raised platform from which they will fall backward into the arms of a prepared group of spotters.
  2. The person falling should keep his or her arms crossed over their chest with the palms gripping opposite shoulders. When falling they should not bend their knees as it concentrates the force of the fall on a few people making catching more difficult.
  3. The two lines of catchers stand shoulder to shoulder facing one another. Hands are to the side with the inside of forearms extended, palms face up so that hands are alternated and juxtaposed in order to provide a secure landing area. It is preferablle that the catchers who are facing each other do not grasp hands. It is not necessary and a knocked head WILL result as the weight of the person falling will pull the two catchers holding hands together. If the group chooses to lock arms together, do so by gripping the wrist of the person opposite, not the hand. Do not cross arms as this can injure the falling volunteer.
  4. Assign one person in the group to stand on the platform and with the volunteer about to fall or to be in very close proximity. This adult leader should make sure the faller is:
    • spacially aligned with the catchers:
    • has hands across chest in the correct position
    • tilting his or her head slightly back as a means to keep the body rigid so that they do not bend at the knees.

    He should also rearrange the spotters if there appears to be an appreciable size or strength discrepancy in opposing catchers.

  5. The adult leader asks the catchers if they are ready. When they are ready they say “fall” and the person falling says “falling” and falls.

Discussion Ideas

  • Trust: How did it feel be forced to rely on someone else? What fears did you have? Did you trust they would prevent you from harm? How does this relate to trusting God with our lives?
  • Protection: In this game we have to protect someone in the group from injury. Do we as a group have an obligation to look out for each other? What are some of the ways we can protect each other in our lives?
  • Helping Those who Fall: What are some ways we can help to catch those who fall? We are surrounded by fallen humanity who need help. How can we help? What can we do when a Christian falls?
  • Reliance: In this group, the person in the center had to rely on the group. What are some of the ways we have to rely on each other in the Christian life? Do we need each other?

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Recipe for Learning

Ingredients
1 loving teacher
8 to 12 young minds
1 to 2 cups curiosity
4 to 5 spoonfuls fun hands-on participation
Patience
Laughter
Enthusiasm

Directions

  1. Combine talented teacher and eager young mind
  2. Add cupfuls of curiosity and spoonfuls of fun.
  3. Blend in generous amounts of hands-on participation mixed with patience.
  4. Sprinkle with laughter and serve with enthusiasm.

Yield
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The Father’s Eyes

Bob Richards, the former pole-vault champion, shares a moving story about a skinny young boy who loved football with all his heart.

Practice after practice, he eagerly gave everything he had. But being half the size of the other boys, he got absolutely nowhere.

At all the games, this hopeful athlete sat on the bench and hardly ever played.

This teenager lived alone with his father, and the two of them had a very special relationship. Even though the son was always on the bench, his father was always in the stands cheering. He never missed a game. This young man was still the smallest of the class when he entered high school. But his father continued to encourage him, but also made it very clear that he did not have to play football if he didn’t want to. But the young man loved football, and decided to hang in there.

He was determined to try his best at every practice, and perhaps he’d get to play when he became a senior. All through high school he never missed a practice nor a game, but remained a bench-warmer all four years. His faithful father was always in the stands, always with words of encouragement for him.

When the young man went to college, he decided to try out for the football team as a “walk-on.” Everyone was sure he could never make the cut, but he did. The coach admitted that he kept him on the roster because he always put his heart and soul to every practice, and at the same time, provided the other members with the spirit and hustle they badly needed.

The news that he had survived the cut thrilled him so much that he rushed to the nearest phone and called his father. His father shared his excitement and was sent season tickets for all the college games. This persistent young athlete never missed practice during his four years at college, but he never got to play in a game. It was the end of his senior football season, and as he trotted onto the practice field shortly before the big playoff game, the coach met him with a telegram.

The young man read the telegram and he became deathly silent. Swallowing hard, he mumbled to the coach, “My father died this morning. Is it all right if I miss practice today?” The coach put his arm gently around his shoulder and said, “Take the rest of the week off, son. And don’t even plan to come back to the game on Saturday.”

Saturday arrived, and the game was not going well. In the third quarter, when the team was ten points behind, a silent young man quietly slipped into the empty locker room, put on his football gear, and as he ran onto the sidelines, the coach and his players were astounded to see their faithful teammate back so soon. “Coach, please let me play. I’ve just got to play today,” said the young man. The coach pretended not to hear him. There was no way he wanted his worst player in this close playoff game.

But the young man persisted, and finally feeling sorry for the kid, the coach gave in. “All right,” he said. “You can go in.”

Before long, the coach, the players and everyone in the stands could not believe their eyes. This little unknown, who had never played before was doing everything right. The opposing team could not stop him. He ran, he passed, blocked, and tackled like a star.

His team began to triumph. The score was soon tied. In the closing seconds of the game, this kid intercepted a pass and ran all the way for the winning touchdown. The fans broke loose. His teammates hoisted him onto their shoulders. Such cheering you never heard.

Finally, after the stands had emptied, and the team had showered and left the locker room, the coach noticed that this young man was sitting quietly in the corner, all alone. The coach came to him and said, “Kid, I can’t believe it. You were fantastic! Tell me what got into you? How did you do it?”

He looked at the coach, with tears in his eyes, and said, “Well, you knew my dad died, but did you know that my dad was blind?” The young man swallowed hard and forced a smile, “Dad came to all my games, but today was the first time he could see me play, and I wanted to show him I could do it!”

Like the athlete’s father, God is always there cheering for us. He’s always reminding us to go on.

His eyes are always on us!

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Champions

“Let me win. But if I cannot win, let me be brave in the attempt.”
-Special Olympics Oath-

Champions are not those who never fail, they are those who never quit…Men love winners. They want to be identified with winners. Men open a newspaper and turn directly to the sports page because it features winners, while the front page usually features losers…Champions are the right man, in the right place, at the right time. Timing is all important.

God has an eternal clock which was started from the beginning of time to make you become a champion for Him. To become a champion, you must see yourself as a champion. Hanging on to the fear of failure, the sins of others and past mistakes will keep you from becoming a champion. Champions are made, not born. Many champions start with severe handicaps in life, but in making the effort to overcome, they find the ability to continue until they have excelled beyond those even without handicaps…The athlete, the farmer and the soldier all have different ways of winning. Each of them does his training, plowing or exercising in private, and they show their abilities in public…The fainthearted never win, they wilt. They start well, but fade before they finish…

Joshua was a member of the championship team. He could hardly stand to see other men who didn’t feel the way he did, and finally issued the challenge that lives on forever:

‘Choose this day whom you will serve,
but as for me and my house,
we will serve the Lord’

I’m proud to be on Joshua’s team!”

Edwin Louis Cole- “Courage – Winning Life’s Toughest Battles”
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Earlier

An 85-year-old couple, after being married for almost 60 years, died in a car crash. They had been in good health the last ten years, mainly due to her interest in health food and exercising.

When they reached the Pearly Gates, St. Peter took them to their mansion, which was decked out with a beautiful kitchen, master bath suite and a Jacuzzi.

As they looked around, the old man asked St. Peter how much all this was going to cost.

“It’s free,” St. Peter replied, “this is Heaven.”

Next, they went out in the back yard to survey the championship-style golf course that the home was located. They would have golfing privileges every day and each week, the course changed to a new one representing the great golf courses on earth.

The old man asked, “What are the green fees?”

St. Peter replied, “This is heaven, you play for free.”

Next, they went to the club house and saw the lavish buffet lunch with the cuisines of the World laid out.

“How much to eat?” asked the old man.

“Don’t you understand yet? This is heaven, it is free!” St. Peter replied, with some exasperation.

“Well, where are the low fat and low cholesterol tables?” the old man asked timidly.

St. Peter lectured, “That’s the best part – you can eat as much as you like of whatever you like and you never get fat and you never get sick. This is Heaven.”

With that, the old man went into a fit of anger, throwing down his hat and stomping on it, and screaming wildly.

St. Peter and his wife both tried to calm him down, asking him what was wrong. The old man looked at his wife and said, “This is all your fault! If it weren’t for your blasted bran muffins, I could have been here ten years ago!”

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Helping Youth to Understand Cults

Background Scriptures

  • Galatians 1:6-9
  • II Cor. 11:3-15
  • II Timothy 3:1-16
  • 1 Timothy 4:3-4
  • Colosssians 2:8-23
  • Proverbs 14:12

The ‘Marks’ of a Cult –

DEIFY MAN
Man may become a god. Man only needs to ‘progress’ (as defined by the cult and only with the cult’s help) to become like God.
Genesis 3:1-13, Isaiah 14:9-19, 2 Thess 2:3-4.

HUMANIZE GOD
Deny that God is ONE eternally. Deny the Trinity. There are ‘many’ gods and redefine God to Man’s image.
Romans 1:21-25 I Isaiah 43 :10-11 and 44:6-8 I Psalm 90:2

MINIMIZE SIN
Instead of man’s very nature being separated from God, sin is only specific acts that through good works can be perfected. Hell is redefined into bland or non existent punishment.
Romans 3:23, I John 1:8-10, Gal 3:10, Revelation 20:14-15

OSTRACIZE THE SCRIPTURES
They will add additional scripture and claim that there is error in God’s Word. Continual change of meaning in scripture.
Luke 21:33, Revelation 22:18-19, Isaiah 40:8, Acts 17:11

A DIFFERENT JESUS
Jesus is not the Son of God, but rather a son of A god – or He was just a prophet – or a created god – or our elder brother – or just a good man or a teacher.
Isaiah 9:6-7, John 1:1-14, Colossians 1:15-20, Hebrews 1:1-12

A DIFFERENT SALVATION
Deny Salvation by Grace, by the shed blood of Jesus on the Cross at Calvary and by true repentance of sin by a sinner. Usually will not see a cross on the cult’s structures. Salvation must include works, and quite often by a system dictated by the cult.
Eph 2:8-10, Gal 3:1-26, I Peter 2:24

DIFFERENT SPIRIT
The Holy Spirit is changed into a ‘good force’ or impersonal entity. Deny God the Spirit. Spiritism is, generally, rampant by having visits from spirits, counterfeit miracles, etc.
I Timothy 4:1, Deut 18:9-14, John 14:17

MODERN DAY PROPHET
Founded by man, followed by others who claim to be God’s one true spokesman on Earth. Accountable to no one but God. Gives revelation and scripture.
Jeremiah 23, Matthew 24:24, Hebrews 1:1-2, Deut 13:1-10;18:20-22

THE ONLY TRUE CHURCH
Their group is the only true way to perfection. The word ‘truth’ used over and over. Unless you are active part of their organization. You are lost. Deny the spiritual union of believers.
Col 1:18, Eph 1:22-23, Romans 12:1-8

SECRETS .. CLOSED TO THE OUTSIDE WORLD
Secret rituals, temples and doctrines. Finances not public. No communion with Christian body. All others are outsiders. No one knows the truth as they (and their prophet) do. Persecution complex.

CANNOT LEAVE
Always testing loyalty of followers. Obedience (blind) is primary. Leaders have all power – are followers intermediary with God – not Jesus. Only way to leave is by excommunication. Threats, Spiritual bondage, fear and guilt most common. If you leave, you are cut off from all in cult.

A cult is where:

  1. God is brought down to a lower level in regard to His identity. (What He is really like)
  2. God is brought down to a lower level in regard to His uniqueness. (Is there anyone else like Him?)
  3. Man is elevated in regard to his basic sin nature. (What he is really like)
  4. Man is elevated in regard to his potential. (Will man become like God?)
  5. Christ is brought down to a lower level in regard to His identity. (Who He is)
  6. Christ is brought down in regard to His mission. (What He came to do)
  7. Faith is reduced to a meaningless term. (Cults trust in the works of some part of creation for salvation)
  8. Heaven is presented as a place for the elite, or where everyone will go, or a place that is merely symbolic.


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